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A few nights back I had an interesting conversation with an ex of mine and one of the things we spoke about was the fear, blaming and asking question when someone dear has passed on instead of learning from the kind of life those people lived. He argued that we focus so much on the pain that we loose perspective and thats not how he does it. One thing we forget as people we are not the same, we do not think the same and that there is a reason we are different, just because it doesn't make sense to you, does not mean that its wrong. There is an important part growth plays in our life and that grief we deal with it differently, so we must allow others to do so in their own way and step in when there is a need. I am not an expert in dealing with any type of grief but I know that there is a reason why there are steps to doing it because as humane as we are, our journey makes us who we are and helps in understanding and strengthening the self.

I know that this is a bit late but who cares? Anyways I decided to wake up early and make my way to town because the day before I was there but I forgot something Important so I took a taxi to town. On the way to there we passed people dressed In DA t-shirts running around the streets apparently celebrating the above mentioned holiday and then one of the ladies in the taxi started speaking about how people from that party cannot be celebrating the day when these are the very same people who took everything from us"blacks" and everyone started agreeing with her. We all know what this day is about, but what we are celebrating may have changed. I have been making my own observations as well as to what it evokes in us as people. We can sit here and speak about a rainbow nation and equality and yet we are unable to make amends and forgive what is supposed to stay in the past. With ever public holiday that puts us in the past we have been unable to make decisions, step foot in t...

It has been weeks now and a part of me has been going through trying times and I cannot believe that I put myself through that again, I mean have You seen yourself. I was listening to sad songs for what I do not even remember why for days I felt sorry for myself and I shouldn't have done that. You see I did the one thing I promised never to do again. I think you forgot one thing when you met me, I have been broken before and the truth is nothing can ever tear me to shreds again. You see this is Me and this right here is REAL. It may be that you count yourself lucky enough to have seen me vulnerable and count yourself unlucky that you ever set foot at the door. In the past months this I have come to realize that I am one amazing human being and I tend to whisper it in the dark instead of shouting it out at the highest of rooftops. I woke up one day and I came across a beautiful soul, we started talking about random things in life and how they have had a totally different first i...

I never thought it would happen again although this time its a little different, that one day that feeling that I thought I was afraid of all those years would actually caught up with me. Imagine my surprise when I was busy trying to outrun a leopard and the next  thing I know its digging its claws in my skin and there is nothing I can do about it. I used the leopard because its fast and thats how I believe it was, maybe a little unusual and distinct but since I have decided to deviate a bit from my normal behavior this year there was nothing wrong with it at all. I still cannot believe that it took a month for me to laugh about a past that brought me nothing but pain and suffering 7 years ago. It has not felt so real before than when you laughed in my face about the plans I had and I remembered an old favorite song of mine. In that instant it stopped hurting and I realized that the feeling was not my fear but the fact that people I shared it with just tend to leave and I was n...

I thought that I should share one of my favourite japanese song with you, tonight. I am writing them in both languages translated. KIMI ga Kureta Mono_ Kudou Shizuka Tada ureshikute naiteriru no                                           I'm crying because I'm happy tada kanashikute naiteru no                                             I'm crying because I'm sad sou sunao ni ikiru konna no                                            Living honestly like that, I can completely jibun de irareru                                                 ...

The past week I finally managed to log on to facebook and to my surprise there was this picture that was making the rounds. I believe out of the first 10 posts it appeared 3 times and I was disturbed as the caption was the same. You see to me this picture is an insult because, most men would never make the same sacrifices that they expect from women. Why is it that women are the ones who have to bend over backwards and yet men just want a finished product. men want to be waited for and a patient counterpart but yet they are unable to do the same thing for us women. This might be just an opinion but truth is the world an even society rates us differently and I know most of you think I am being old here but if you actually paid more attention to your mentality which shaped by mostly culture because its what we are fed everyday. You will actually realize that what you think is your idea really isn't.  This is not feminism do not misunderstand me, this is just something that...